11 signs you’re not going to succeed
Everyone sets goals for themselves – small or large, fast or long-term, easy or difficult. Whatever you aspire to, it is important not to interfere with yourself in achieving what you want. You often do not even notice that everything is not going as you planned. It is your fault. We have collected several signs by which you can understand in advance that you will not be able to achieve your goal.
1. You don’t want to overcome circumstances
Certain circumstances will always arise on your way, one way or another, preventing you from achieving your goal. You can never predict when and how they will manifest themselves. It is always an element of surprise. But whether you succeed or not, in any case, depends only on you. You will achieve what you want if you overcome circumstances and obstacles. If you are not ready for the fact that someone or something will interfere with you in the process, alas, you will not succeed.
2. You don’t look for new opportunities if something doesn’t work out for you
Even when you encounter difficulties and it seems to you that it is pointless to move on and there is no way out of this situation, do not give up. You can find new opportunities to do what you originally planned. It depends on your motivation level and readiness for long, detailed work. Yes, it will be difficult, but no one promised an easy way to get what you want.
3. Are you afraid of what others will think of you?
All people are different, and sometimes this can be expressed in a complete lack of understanding and support. Those around you may be dissatisfied with your undertakings, criticize you, change their opinion about you, be disappointed with your words and deeds, and so on. This is an inevitable process – no matter how hard you try, there will still be those who will be dissatisfied with you.
The only question is whether you are ready to act despite the disapproval of society or your loved ones. If yes, then be sure that you will succeed because you are free from the fear of judgment. If not, the first negative comments will kill all your motivation and self-confidence.
4. You’re not going to give up comfort even for a while
Achieving goals is not about comfort; it’s about hard work on yourself, dealing with circumstances, lack of free time, stress, lack of sleep, and so on. You must be prepared to change your life, at least for the moment, while trying to achieve what you want.
If you are not going to give up even for a while the comfort to which you are accustomed, then it is unlikely that you will be able to fulfill your plans. You need to be flexible and make certain sacrifices for the sake of the result you are striving for.
5. You painfully perceive your every mistake
As long as you are ashamed of your mistakes, take them painfully, and lose faith in yourself and your abilities because of every failure, you will not be able to move very far forward. You’ll either be too careful, afraid of making a mistake and trying to plan out every step in advance, or you’ll give up on what you started as soon as you run into trouble.
It would help if you learned to accept mistakes as integral to your life path. Mistakes don’t make you stupid or weak. Moreover, thanks to your mistakes, you get the opportunity to learn, grow, develop, and improve your approach to solving problems.
6. Are you looking for fast results?
When you set an ambitious goal, be prepared that your actions may not bring tangible results for a long time. It will seem to you that everything you do is meaningless, and you are not getting closer to what you want. But this is not so – it’s just that progress is not immediately visible.
If you expect quick results and are unwilling to be patient and wait without stopping to put in the effort, you will face disappointment. Stop believing that you can always get whatever you want, whenever you want.
7. You feel sorry for yourself
There is nothing wrong with sometimes forgoing certain tasks, giving yourself extra time to rest, or allowing yourself to revise the plan, realizing that you have taken on too much – no. This is a healthy approach to using their resources and their usual care. But if you feel sorry for yourself all the time – you take the position of a victim, demand special treatment for yourself, justify your laziness, and so on, this is already an alarming bell. There is a high chance that you will not achieve anything you want.
8. Do you think that you should be helped in the process of achieving the goal
No one owes you anything, not even your family and friends. People can help you if you have the opportunity and ask for it. Do not stagnate and wait for someone to do something for you. If you think this is normal, we are in a hurry to upset you: with such a position, you are unlikely to be able to justify your hopes. For you to manage to make your life the way you imagine it and achieve everything you want, you will have to work hard on your own, without relying on anyone.
9. Are you afraid of competition?
You can stagnate in one place for a long time without risking doing what you want because of the high competition. But here’s some food for thought: many people do what everyone else does. At the same time, only a few achieve success. The secret is that most of them give up at the start, indulging their laziness and fears and listening to the opinions of others. If you can overcome this threshold and move further, consider that you have already won – if not others, then yourself.
10. You don’t believe in yourself
Without faith in yourself, even the most prepared person cannot achieve what he wants. No matter how smart, strong, and motivated you may be, until you believe that you can succeed, you are doomed to failure. Gaining confidence in yourself is difficult, but it must be done. Put all your resources into boosting your confidence, and you’ll be surprised how much your life will change.
11. You can’t be persistent
Sometimes it’s not enough to act according to a well-thought-out plan and invest a lot of time and effort in achieving a goal. You must be persistent: not to compromise, demand what you deserve, and beat out better conditions for yourself. Put yourself and your needs first and act accordingly.